The 3 Levels of Friendship

The 3 Levels of Friendship

Scripture: 2 Corinthians 6:14

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”


First, let me briefly explain what friendship means in terms of the Oxford Dictionary. “A person with whom one has established an intimate and trusting relationship; (more generally) a close acquaintance.”

In contrast, speaking of friendships, my seven-year-old daughter “Daniella” would always return home from school and introduce a new friend that she had each day and week. She needed to hear from me at one point that knowing someone is not the same as having them as a friend. The reason for this is that maintaining and keeping a friendship requires a lot of sacrifice. Additionally, I had to make it simple for her by telling her that she would learn more as she grew into an adult in the future.

More importantly, I want to share this very exciting idea that I recently had about the three levels of friendship that I learned about. However, before I divulge, I’d like you to see a picture of a “tree.” Keep in mind that a seed cannot grow into a tree without first becoming a seed. In addition, a tree’s seeds contain its future. As far as we know, a tree consists of the following elements: roots, stem, leaves, and fruits. Let’s take a closer look at this now.


1. The Leaf Friendship

2. The Branch Friendship

3. The Root Friendship

LEAF Friendship:

These are individuals who are only in your life temporarily. They are weak, so you can’t rely on them. If the wind picks up, they will leave because they have only come to take what they want.

These people should be avoided because while they adore you when everything is going smoothly, they will desert you when the going gets tough.

BRANCH Friendship:

They are powerful, but you also need to be cautious when using them. When things get hard, they separate because they can’t bear too much weight. They might stick around during some seasons, but when things get tougher, they’ll leave.

ROOT Friendship: The fact that these people don’t act in order to be noticed makes them very significant. They will support you even if you are going through a difficult time; they are unaffected by your position because they genuinely care about you.

Not everyone you meet will become a friend of yours and remain with you.

No matter the season, only the root kind of people will endure, so use caution.

Let me summarize the main text for today by saying, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. What kind of relationship does righteousness have with crime? Or what association unites light and darkness? And I add, “Do not be unequally yoked with the leaves and branch friends, but the root relationship is better.”

You might be wondering, “How do I meet the real friends? Well, we can only recognize these root friends when the Holy Spirit of God is guiding us. Be polite to everyone who approaches you as a friend but be wary of accepting everyone you meet as a friend unless the Holy Spirit of God is guiding you. The first prerequisite is being born again before you can be led by the Spirit of God.


Lord, we are grateful that you are our friend. You are the only real friend we could turn to for anything we need in this life, after all. Amen. Please guide us toward developing genuine friendship and relationships going forward.

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Pastor Bob.

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Pastor Bob (Idamiebi Benson Bob-Manuel) is a husband and father of three. Born and raised in Nigeria he moved to Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada in 2019 to pursue a calling from the Lord to build an in-person and online ministry. After serving in various ministerial capacities for 18 years, Bob was ordained as a Pastor in January 2018. Since coming to Canada he has served at The Bridge Church, a ministry under the covering of the Foursquare Church of Canada and currently serves as an associate pastor with Wellsprings Victory Church in Regina, Saskatchewan. Bob has a passion for sharing the word of God through preaching, teaching, and worship. He believes in the power and righteousness of servant leadership and has devoted his life to walking the path that God has placed before him. Bob is also pursuing a Master’s degree in Christian Leadership through distance learning with Trinity Western University British Columbia, Canada.

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